BBP Stories: I Was the Tomboy

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BBP Stories: I Was the Tomboy

Central High School
10th grade, 16
African American Bisexual Female

My story is going to be about my sexuality.

And being bullied about it. So probably about like my eighth-grade year, I started to realize that um-, the way I looked at other girls, like I noticed that girls are pretty. And I didn’t dress girly, like other girls. I was kind of a boyish kind of girl. I was the tomboy. I loved sports. I played football, played volleyball, and right now in my sophomore year, I’m playing softball. In my eighth-grade year, I had decided to come out. The first person I told was my friend, L. She accepted me. She was a real cool friend. And I loved her for that.

But other kids, they just, they didn’t accept the fact that I liked girls. Even though I still like boys, too. Bisexual is the term. But I mean, I think people are special the way they are. I have friends who are gay, who are transgender, and I love them all because they love me. So, eighth grade year was hard. When I came into my freshman year I met a new friend. And we had a lot of good memories together cause, you know, he was also bisexual. So, we had a nice mutual understanding cause we knew what each other was going through. And I don’t know, I think it’s because it was high school and a lot of kids had a lot of understanding of what the term bisexual was and there was people who accepted the fact that I was bisexual.

 

And then, there were people who didn’t.

I was fine with that. As long as I had my group of friends that understood, I was just fine. Right now, I’m currently in my sophomore year. I still have those same friends that were there. My friend, who I talked about earlier, and I went and talked to legislators about bullying. And it was a great experience. It was nice to be seen on TV. It was nice to let them know that everybody gets bullied. Not just kids who are nerdy and who get good grades, or people who are gay or straight, everybody gets bullied. It was nice.

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BBP STORIES: Having a kid

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BBP STORIES: Having a kid

West High School

I actually learned something pretty interesting that being gay doesn’t mean that you don’t have to have a kid. It just means–. Being gay is just a saying of who you love, like a man and a man. It doesn’t mean that you can’t have a kid. And I didn’t learn that until, until I talked to one of my teachers. After that, I opened my eyes and I was like: Oh, really? And my theory was totally incorrect. So I actually learned something. Yeah.

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BBP STORIES: I think I realized it

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BBP STORIES: I think I realized it

West High School

I think I realized it

when I was in kindergarten that I wasn’t exactly the same as everyone else. I viewed girls and guys the same, like I had a crush a girl, I had a crush on a guy. It didn’t make a difference to me. As long as I thought the person was amazing, you know, personality wise. And I just…

It didn’t hit me until the fifth grade that I was different when I was on the Internet and there was like a quiz. It was just random. It was–. I was going on some website and it was like a quiz. And it was like: What’s your sexuality? And I was like: Oh, yeah–. So me being a naïve fifth grader, I was like: Oh, yeah, let me go look at, check this out. I’ll take this quiz.

And I took it and it was like: Oh, you’re bisexual. And I was like: Oh. OK. And I remember telling this guy at my school, my elementary school. I was like: I think I’m bisexual because I like girls and guys. And it doesn’t matter to me. And he teased me. He spread rumors about me. He was just like: You like girls? Ha, you’re a lesbian. It was just like–. It blew up. It was really ridiculous. I thought–.

 

It was–. It–. I wasn’t–.

I never was ashamed of it. I was just–. I realized that sexuality isn’t something that you tell everybody because you can’t tell everybody because some people are too immature to understand it. And once I realized that, I–, my sexuality became something that wasn’t really spoken about. I never told anybody. My family doesn’t know. My brother doesn’t know. Not–. I think maybe ten of my friends know. It’s not something that I tell people. And definitely because I realized that now, in this generation, people view you differently if you don’t have the same sexuality, which is absolutely ridiculous. You know?

Because I think that it should be who you are who’s judged. Like your morals, your understanding of others. It shouldn’t be your sexuality. And that’s just ignorance to just shut someone out because of that just because of who they like, like the gender they like.

And when I got into high school, my sophomore year, which is right now, I started realizing that: Yeah. I should embrace my sexuality. It shouldn’t be something that needs to be hidden. So now if it’s like, someone really wants to know? Then I’ll tell them. And I won’t care. You know? I think it’s something I should be proud of. I don’t want to keep hiding it. And I’m really proud to say that I am bisexual.

And that when I do end up falling in love with someone, it’s going to be because of who they are and not their gender or anything that society tells me. And, yeah–. Thank you for listening to my story.

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